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PART I
Forgotten Factor
Having to deal with possessive Filipino women may be one of the elements that a few foreign nationals perhaps had forgotten to factor in while they were in search of that special someone from the Philippines to share their lives with.
It is apparent that some Filipino women who, after being married to Westerners or other foreign nationals, have decided, consciously or unconsciously to be possessive or even over-possessive of their husbands. It seems that these women act that way as a means to control their foreigner national husbands. By control, I mean to somehow shield them away from not the elements but from the rest of the Philippine society.
By definition, these women are manipulative. Some of these women would go the extra mile in their possessiveness as to raise their hands on their docile foreign national husbands as a way to further subdue them should the latter tell them something that may hurt their feelings, regardless of how truthful that something can be.
Obviously, these married men cannot do much to repair the damage caused by their manipulative wives because they are quite old. They feel that it is too late for them to terminate their marriage relationships and to start again their search of love from scratch. Indeed, time is not on their side, and a result, their abusive Filipino wives take advantage of that.
It appears to me that some Filipino women are unaware that it is not customary for a wife to raise her hands on their husbands in the Western world or in the Arab world, and other parts of the world. This might be permissible in self-defense only in some countries. It is one of these possessive Filipino women's failings and shortcomings that needs to be addressed.
If such an issue is not given the proper attention, then you can expect the weakening of the marital bonds which can lead to full separation of the couple or even to divorce if they were married in the Philippines. Is that the wish of these over-jealous and possessive Filipino women, married to foreign nationals? They are the only who might be able to answer this question; yet, do not even count on it.
Husbands Viewed as Unique Possession
As I see it, there is nothing wrong for a married woman to feel a bit jealous if she realizes that her husband flirts or likes to flirt with another woman or other girls. In fact, such flirting behavior tends to lead to extra marital affairs, which in turn creates difficulties in most marriage relationships. But, an over-jealous woman would not wait for her husband to flirt with another girl or woman in order to accuse him of doing so. I personally know two few foreign nationals who are married to jealous Filipino wives.
Their domestic life is not the sweetest you can think of on earth. These women's intentions are clear: a) keep their husbands at home where nobody else would see them, except the domestic helper and the children, if any, b) go on vacations once in a while, as their budgets allow, where their husbands would have little or no opportunity to talk to no women. How would you feel if you were one of these married men? What would your reactions be when your Filipino over-jealous wife places so many restrictions on your life?
Part II to follow. Please stay tuned.
